Today i have finally accepted that nothing is going to go on with Graham, i mean i struck up conversation with him over facebook on thursday and it was alright, a little slow but it did span over a few hours and it wasn't the generic conversation that sometimes happens so i thought maybe it would prompt more chats, but no deal.
you see, i have a guidelines when to tell if a guy is into you and when he's not (these rules apply when you've just met the guy the night before or something):
1.) he adds you on facebook, not the other way round. this is always a good sign because it shows that he's interest in you enough to want to have a stalk of your facebook also it shows he remembers you and your name which is always a bonus.
2.) he talks to you on facebook (as in he starts the conversation) and seems genuinely interested in having a conversation. this means he asks you questions and here is the big thing, if you don't reply to something he has said he'll say something else, it shows he wants to keep the conversation going and obviously that he wants to keep talking to you.
3) phone numbers, my experience has been mixed about phone numbers i don't think it matters who gives who but be sure if you are the one giving out your number there is a valid reason for doing so so make one up, the classic (but awful) one is: "hey i'm going now but i enjoyed our chat here's my number ....... maybe we can carry it on later?". it's so blatant but i know SO many girls (and guys) who have used it and i've seen it work, so trust okay?
4) see if he starts conversation with you in general, if you are the one always starting the conversation no matter how good it is, it could be that he's not into you, if you have a massive urge to talk to him make sure it's because you need to 'ask him something' or start off with a little in joke, start with a hi and make sure you get to your point, don't blaze in like HI HOW ARE YOU? WHAT HAVE YOU BEEN UP TO? HAHAHAHA OH YOU'RE SO FUNNY!!!! that's not subtle. at all.
5) if conversation is still not happened three days after the event, it's a no go, forget about it move on, fish in the sea all that shit.
these are a few of the many i have (it's just i can't remember them all), and i know it's lame but i tend to stick to them because i always get worried if i seem to keen so i'm a sorta 'hard to get' girl, in the least lame way possible. and it is because of the rules that i'm not going to follow up on Graham because, let's be honest, it was one night, it was fun, would i liked it to have gone somewhere? yes. did it? no. should i move on? yes, life's too short for a drunk boy at a party anyway. School's about to start again so i'll be getting back to having no social life and working so hard i think my brain is going to melt out of my ears.
tragic.
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